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Stricter guidelines for adopting Chinese orphans will provide greater protection for children without affecting their opportunities for adoption, a government official said Tuesday.

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evelyna
March 13, 2007, 10:32 a.m.
Sounds like discrimination to me. People will just go elsewhere like Latin America. My friend adopted a wonderful child from Columbia and she is working on her masters degree for sociology.
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espse
March 13, 2007, 10:38 a.m.
There are over 200,000 children in AMERICA in the foster care system with out a family who age out of the system each year. There is noting sadder than that. Why adopt overseas, there are children (usually older) who are starving for a family. Contact the Dave Thomas Foundation for Children, or other non profits for more info.
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AnonymousSomeone
March 13, 2007, 2:18 p.m.
Sounds unfair to me. Especially the "obese" rule. That will definitely cut down the number of people in the US adopting from China.
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fishoutofwater
March 13, 2007, 2:53 p.m.
My friends adopted a wonderful little girl from China. The process did not seem "easy" to me -- it took them well over a year, and tons and tons of paperwork and social-worker visits and evaluations.
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maryhaze
March 13, 2007, 4:15 p.m.
as an adoptive parent, i can tell you that nothing is easy about the process. my boys are bi-racial, adopted from arizona & i'd be lying if i said i didn't worry about their birth parents coming back into the picture at some time. i don't see foreign adoptions as having that risk. however, there are bribes & other corruption to worry about. no matter which way you go, there is tons of paperwork & at times what seems a total invasion of your life during home visits & stuff. we are doing paperwork for a girl & i'm not sure if i'm going domestic or out of country. as far as the new chinese regulations go, i guess they'd rather see kids spend their lives in orphanages than go to loving homes. disgusting.
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chevydog
March 13, 2007, 5:12 p.m.
The part about the obesity puzzled me. But then we engage in a lot of hyperbole. It's hard to go a week in this forum or any popular communication without seeing something like the "obesity epidemic". When we use that tone constantly, can we blame someone like China for taking it seriously?
Our first adoption took almost three years. The home studies are nerve-wracking; but most social workers like doing them. As one told me, it's one of the few chances they get to see something positive. The worst part is the waiting. Good international agencies will give you a schedule and pretty well stick to it. But that doesn't make waiting any easier.
One of the big reasons for going international is the worry about birth parents showing up and complicating life. This isn't going to go away, in the US anyway. Some people view this as "enlightened". From my side of the fence, I selfishly can't say that I agree.
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LorzaRN
March 13, 2007, 7:51 p.m.
I can understand them wanting to make sure the children go the good homes and have set rules for it- uh, but the obesity part? I can understand on some level the unmarried and the over 50- but the obesity? To make that a law? What defines obesity? I mean according to www.push.tv (an online fitness dvd/personal trainer thing) at 5"5' I am obese (YES OBESE) at 181 pounds. If you saw a picture of me you would realize this is a joke. Most peole think I don't weigh over 150. So in addition to the social worker home visits do you have to go to a physican for a physical too?
I just want as many kids in the WHOLE WORLD to get to have loving homes. I wish all kids could- children deserve it.
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KYRed
March 13, 2007, 8:36 p.m.
I remember seeing a documentary, or did I read it? I don't remember, but the Chinese children were tied into chairs and would poop and pee in their pants but were only cleaned according to a schedule. The kids were crying and no one was there to comfort them. That's better than having an older and fat set of parents to look after them?
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season
March 13, 2007, 8:57 p.m.
I see no justification of any of those new rules. I have a friend who adopted her daughter from China 9 years ago and her daughter was 3 years ol. My friend has never been married. Would her daughter had been better off sitting in the orphanage than being loved & well cared for by my single friend? Absolutely not. And since when does being over 50, single and/or obese inhibit someone from being a good parent? What a shame China has decided to implement these policies.
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chevydog
March 13, 2007, 9:13 p.m.
Can't say that I saw the same documentary as KYR. I'm pretty familiar with Korea, somewhat with India, and just some with Latin America. In these places, orphanages are private and often financed with the help of overseas organizations. As you can imagine, money and help are always in short supply. They do what they can. It's sort of like the US was maybe 100 years ago.
Editorial-- We usually think we're them a favor by taking their orphans. I was talking to a Korean social worker once who remarked that generally the healthy children are taken and those with disabilities left untaken. These latter require alot more care (and money). So yes, taking some is better than not taking any; but it's not an unalloyed blessing.
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mamasan
March 13, 2007, 11:35 p.m.
Just cuz you "want" a baby doesnt mean you get one!
geez how selfish are some people.
Adopt some kids from America.
Who cares if they are not "cute babies".
If you want kids and cant conceive, dont be so dam picky.
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mssofie
March 14, 2007, 12:45 a.m.
It is sad that Americans are going all over the world to adopt a child. There are so many adoptable children that are being ignored. There are plenty of babies as well as young and teen kids available. I think alot of folks think that it is trendy to adopt from another country. Why not so many other "idols" are doing it. US children have the same problem, they need a loving home with parents. I find it hard to believe that some think that older kids come with problems and are difficult to deal with. Thats what parenting is all about, even for biological parents.