Should You Condemn Yourself to a Bad Relationship for Life Because of Religion and Guilt? »

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  Locky12

  March 21, 2007, 9:30 p.m.

  Any of the horror stories listed would be eligible for an annulment. But when you take that oath on the altar there's no asterisk after til death do us part.
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  Hobe

  March 21, 2007, 10:36 p.m.

  Do the Right thing in the best intrest of All Parties....
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  BoxMonkey

  March 21, 2007, 11:16 p.m.

  You need to read the other story about that guy in France ripping his wifes' eyes out for lack of nookie . Then say "Til death do us part".
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  waterdoc

  March 22, 2007, 3:10 a.m.

  Regardless of the semantics designed to make people feel better, after you've gone through the ceremony, lived together as husband-and-wife, including sex and children, an annulment and divorce are teh same thing. At some point the church and those who believe that they're different just have to deal with it and stop villifying those who are honest about it!
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  TOtheMOON

  March 22, 2007, 9:17 a.m.

  Religion is for those afraid of Hell.

  Spirituality is for those who have already been there.

  If you live your life by religious beliefs, that is fine. When I was living that way I was "working" towards 1 goal. To go to Heaven when I died. Living by the "rules". Not until after my hubby died did I realize that I wasn't *living* a very fulfilling life. Religion didn't keep me from the pain I was experiencing here on earth. I needed something to make me feel better NOW. Religion was taking the focus off of today and putting it on my life after my death.

  So my life now is about spirituality. I make today great and don't worry about tomorrow. If I am in a sucky situation, then I change it. If you are in a bad marriage and there is a way out - change it. We all deserve happiness today. I don't believe that there is any reason to suffer through life by following religious rules. Personally, I feel it is a sin to not try to better your life.
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  MInTheGap

  March 22, 2007, 10:37 a.m.

  This whole article misses the point. The writer is deceived and is deceiving those that would read it to believe that marriage is all about love. That's wrong. Marriage is all about commitment. Now, I understand that the man has been unfaithful-- but I also understand that the vows say "for better or for worse."

  Who are these writers to a) judge the person's church as being wrong about counseling and b) to claim that they are a monopoly on truth?

  Regardless of all of this, marriage is about commitment and self-sacrificing love... but I guess this woman wouldn't have asked these permissive people for their advice if she didn't want affirmation of her own decision.
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  clh19

  March 22, 2007, 1:21 p.m.

  Sorry to completely disagree, but if a person (moreover, a child) is in ANY danger due to a bad marriage, the victim(s) should have NO obligation to stick around and try to "fix what they have."

  Point blank, some marriages CAN'T be fixed.
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  Charlson

  March 22, 2007, 4:55 p.m.

  Bullcrap! Some marriages can never be fixed.
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  Truzseeker

  March 22, 2007, noon

  Marriage is a business arrangement, and nothing more especially involving the law, and separation, annulment, or dissolution are terms also common to a corporation.

  Also this legal business arrangment defines the rights of the parties to the contract/marriage license, and men have little or no rights in the courts prescribed in advance by law.

  Experience and a little digging has further revealed that a custodial parent can even make knowingly false or fraudulent statement to the department of child support services in order to obtain wage garnishment even though child support is already being paid!

  Marriage is already becoming a thing of the past as more couples are deciding against it, and for good reason. Finally they are those waking up the fact that someone someday will make money from the misery that marriage causes making preneptual agreements that much more important for those that really want to be married.
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  TOtheMOON

  March 22, 2007, 1:13 p.m.

  This woman was not going to go back to S. Shes going to keep looking until she finds someone who tells her its okay to dump him. She didn't want to be the one to make that decision on her own (even tho she had already made up her mind - subconsciously - that she wasn't going to stay with him.). She wanted to be with D.
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  airglide

  March 22, 2007, 1:18 p.m.

  "We don't need religion to tell us what is right and wrong. As long as we come from a place of love and acceptance, we'll always make the right decisions."

  If we love only ourselves, what kind of yard stick is that? We seek advise only from those who agree with us.

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