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Posted by: dan-and-jennifer 2 years, 3 months agoHere's a question from a woman who would love to enhance her and her husband's love life by hooking up with some of their friends, but she's terribly afraid of what others will think of her...
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jasmine5000
Sept. 12, 2007, 1:38 p.m.no your not bad. its not a burning isue but so what. your not apervert. perverts go after children.
some people are just overly judgmental.
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K9mikem
Sept. 12, 2007, 1:41 p.m.Yeah, I can't see how this fits in with the burning issues of the day.
It certainly doesn't deserve top billing as it has been discussed in various forums ad nauseum.
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dan-and-jennifer
Sept. 12, 2007, 1:44 p.m.Hey, it's a burning issue to her :-)...
Do perverts also have sex in non-missionary positions? Maybe they even play with toys...
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sonshinegirl4
Sept. 12, 2007, 1:46 p.m.You took a vow to be faithful to your husband. If your love life is not what you would like for it to be, maybe you should talk it over with him and get his opinion. Maybe you should seek a christian counsellor's advice. You can spice up your love life without involving other people. Maybe you could visit an adult toy/book store. It is almost certain that when you add additional people to the mix, it will not end well.
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PilotSmall
Sept. 12, 2007, 3:59 p.m.Oh barf! Christian moral judgements minus any type of educated information again! Anyone, (except the morally uneducated) can read the best educated cultural and social anthropologist in the world to wit: human beings are not monogamous (that was a fiction of religions!) Fact of very well founded university based research is humans are primary, but not monogamous. Primary means we want to be with one person most of the time but not only one person forever! In old times if a woman was mongamous, and a saber tooth ate her spouse, she would like die from no protector. Why dear christian, if your god made us all in his image, do 58% of females and 72% of males have sex with others outside the marriage at some time in the long run? Has nothing to do with "bad" nor "good", just human life, and not against anyone!
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Charlson
Sept. 12, 2007, 4:40 p.m.For me the question is not sex with other partners but what jealousies will rear it's ugly head. And if your self esteem is plagued by self doubts it can never work. Many may dabble in "swinging" but few are successful in maintaining a viable marriage. A relationships between two married people is hard enough to successfully navigate without more players adding more stress. To each their own, but not for me. Besides, my wife has told me no.
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mulembo
Sept. 12, 2007, 4:47 p.m.Life is what you make it to be. If that's how you want your life and marriage to be, then go for it. Every our action has its consquences. I don't want to cast judgements on people. I am a human myself. But I have my own ideals about LIFE and LOVE. And I've tried with all my heart and sincerity to live up to my ideals, although not everyone would agree w/ my ideas. That's fine. We are all different.
Deep down, we all know what truth and beauty are, but not many of us are willingly to make the effort to attain them at the expense of our whimsical, foolish desires. After we committed the act, then we regret, complain, cry, and blame the world for our own littl foolishness.
Love and Peace, people
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globalwarmer
Sept. 12, 2007, 5:49 p.m.I don't think its a decision for a married couple to take lightly especially when there are children involved. I would think the risks outweigh the benefit.
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greenmac
Sept. 12, 2007, 6:12 p.m.If everyone knows the risk and wants to play...game on. It happens every day.
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Sheralyn
Sept. 12, 2007, 7:26 p.m.If you value your relationship, DON'T RISK IT by having sex with others! You could be facing consequences that you haven't even imagined.
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NelsonR
Sept. 12, 2007, 7:29 p.m.******. Get a divorce and make the rounds. I'm agnotic but I bet these people are good christians.
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BenDD
Sept. 12, 2007, 7:45 p.m.This was just too tempting not to respond. Are you a bad person, probably not! However, Dog breeders have more ethics and discrimination than what you're asking. On second thought Sears has a sale on a small quality socket set. I think they would be Ideal for tightening those small screws because you seem to have a lot of them loose...and I'm not religious! UNBELIEVEABLE. GRAB A DICTIONARY AND LOOK UP THE WORDS...Re... last Moral character. Remember you may make it to age 70 eventually, possibly with grand Kids. What morbid memory to have tucked away in the cranial archives....Get it!!!!
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ghengisghan
Sept. 12, 2007, 8:40 p.m.Dont do anything you wouldnt want your parents or kids to find out about...saves alot of grief.sort of what I try and live by.
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JhnKroeger
Sept. 12, 2007, 8:40 p.m.Yes you are a bad person & you will burn in hell. You should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking of it you pervert!
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moxxxxxxxxxx
Sept. 12, 2007, 10:18 p.m.You are neither bad nor good for thinking about this. You are human and these thoughts are part of human sexuality.
But marriage is a commitment or a contract however you choose to see it. And in our society marriage is an institution protected by laws and morality. Marriage is considered the foundation for families and requires a degree of discipline and maturity in order to stay committed. Unfortunately people enter into marriage lacking the maturity for self control and easily give in to their sexual fantasies. You can rationalize it anyway you want to make it right. But the very fact that you have to ask the questions proves you know it isn't right in the first place.
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hiepooh66
Sept. 12, 2007, 10:19 p.m.whats the big deal sex is sex. it's a part of life. perverts chase cildren or animals, if eve never ate the apple you wouldn't even be here. enjoy life have sex and be happy.
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1-2-Oscar
Sept. 12, 2007, 10:31 p.m.Netscape should take action to eliminate posters who are using their site for self-promotion. Here we have two individuals with no professional credentials giving psychological and medical advice--sort of. But what they are really doing is raising tittilating questions in an effort to increase traffic on their own blog.
I wonder if they run any sort of con besides selling books.
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evelyna
Sept. 12, 2007, 11:44 p.m.You can figure out if the guy is a prude by the way he acts. If he was over-concerned about your past I would not suggest it. He may enjoy a tape with you and your girlfriends. If not that he is too much a prude to ever be any fun in bed.
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DeltaX
Sept. 13, 2007, 12:18 a.m.Sunk.
Doll it up with fancy words and all, but it still comes down to breaking vows.
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SirAlec
Sept. 13, 2007, 1:38 a.m."Are you a bad person"... That would be like asking, I'm I a bad person for being a democrat, well of course not,, your just not right. - Just a little humour
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NeoWiccan
Sept. 13, 2007, 6:20 a.m.Hey, everyone has their own "fetish"; some people do that whole dominatrice thing, others have the toe thing (ewwww LOL). If two people are ok with orgy s, I say go for it. It's their life, not mine and even though I wouldn't do things like that, I am not one to judge other peoples lifestyles.
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humemacdonald
Sept. 13, 2007, 9:19 a.m.This is the type of attitude that used to lead monks and other religious fanatics to self mutilation. If you are a Christian and believe that god is in you, I think you should like your whole self, body and mind.
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SAAB7699
Sept. 13, 2007, 9:35 a.m.I'd be worried about std's.I you start here where will you
be five years from now? Maybe you and your husband can get into role playing.Perhaps you could take turns changing
your appearence.I think I would try anything else before
I would resort to swinging.Maybe you and your husband could
try having sex with each other in front of your friends
without actually involving them physically.It may be tough
to do but it might satisfy that craving .Remember, what ever
you decide will be with you forever....
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greenmac
Sept. 13, 2007, 9:43 a.m.Yes STD is the major issue here for me....it is a risk....one that can be deadly. Protection against this is a must.
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