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Posted By dan-and-jennifer 1 year, 9 months ago in StyleSome people take a firm stand against porn, while others use porn and erotic movies to enhance and spice up their sex lives. And these days, internet pornography is easily accessible to those interested, and it's very easy to hide from those who are against it. No more hiding magazines under your bed...
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capecoralM1 year, 9 months ago
Is Bill Clinton Addicted? After the indictment and the collapse of his firm Paul filed suit arguing that Hillary Clinton had never properly reported his $2 million contribution to the campaign. The suit was thrown out because Paul had become a fugitive under arrest in Brazil. On his return, however the suit was refiled.
A Clinton fundraiser, David Rosen, was acquitted of three counts of election fraud but last December his superior, Andrew Grossman, admitted responsibility for three false FEC reports for which the campaign paid a fine of only $35,000.
There is one other thing, as Worldnet Daily reports: "Bill and Hillary Clinton head an all-star cast of witnesses in a lawsuit by business mogul Peter Franklin Paul that alleges the former president reneged on a $17 million deal in which he promised to promote a business in exchange for massive contributions to his wife's Senate campaign.
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 9 months ago
What does this have to do with being addicted to porn?
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Sandokan1 year, 9 months ago
Addicted to love ....Sweet Home Alabama ...(sing) Now Muscle Shoals have got the Swampers, and they've been known to pick a song or two .... How many pancakes cover a manhole? Answer: None cause ice cream doesnt have bones???????????????
Porn addiction ...hello?????
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capecoralM1 year, 9 months ago
What does this have to do with "Hot News"? Would you consider the fact that Hillary Clinton is again mixed up in a campaign contribution scandal "Hot News"? There has been 1 single article about the widening scandal here on Netscape and it was titled Thompson! Not Hillary pledges to give back $850,000 in illegal campaign contributions. This is not the first time. Her former campaign manager was convicted for not reporting $2,000,000 of contributions in her senate campaign!
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ZippySpincycle1 year, 9 months ago
Say, did you notice that this article is posted under "Love & Personals"? It seems ever-so-slightly more on-topic than your rant, cape...
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 9 months ago
My thoughts exactly. If you don't like it don't watch it, but stop telling everyone else what to do!
This lady was setting too many ultimatums and in my experience, those never work. They'll just go behind your back and do it anyway. :-)
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Sandokan1 year, 9 months ago
Sounds like the typical uptight virginal American female. Who cares what your partner watches or reads ... you can always do something else.
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humemacdonald1 year, 9 months ago
I don't think this issue would be worth resorting to an Ultimatum over. In a marriage they should be used sparingly and reserved for issues that the survival of the relationship rests on. Ex-If you continue to scream at the kids etc..
Trust, well that is always a risk with anything in life. It doesn't say how often he watches it though. When is it considered excessive?
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verifiablyunhappy1 year, 9 months ago
Ok I have lived this, my problem lies within itself. I made an ultimatum, 4 years ago. My fiancee has lied to me about it time and time again, I spoke with him about the situation because it seemed to me that he would rather look at porn, than have real life sex with me. I tried to compromise and told him I would watch porn with him if he wanted, he said he was too embarrassed, this was too much for me to handle. When I asked him why he watched porn, I got because it is fun?? How can porn be fun unless he is doing himself. I am not miss america, but I am cute, and offer my fiance sex when ever he wants it and how ever he wants it, so why look at porn?? I know it is a "control thing" but to be honest he does not look at it anymore, I bought porn movies and watch them myself usually when he is on his way home. Let me tell you, he does not like it. There is a compromise, and it will work if you want it to, now Its the kids that are downloading porn on their PSP's.
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Charlson1 year, 9 months ago
I watch porn and I feel nothing's wrong with it. My wife does not watch porn with me (she did at first but decided it wasn't her cup of tea) but is not judgemental about it. She realizes that our marriage is secure and she has nothing to fear from my watching others having sex on videos or on the net. She understands that I have more of a sex drive than she does and if I didn't watch porn and masturbate I'd be a miserable person to be around. We've reach an accomodation and are both happy with it. That is what others have to do - reach an accomodation with each.
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Sandokan1 year, 9 months ago
Excellent ... I still have a belief that God designed our drives to ensure the propagation of the human race was guaranteed. Rather than having an over populated world, he gave men the sex drive and woman got to have the babies.
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melanie001 year, 9 months ago
That is rediculuos.. as far as im concerned its just as good as cheating. What wife wants their husband LUSTING after other women. and even if it is not physically acting out, who knows what it could lead to. Porn cannot satisfy forever, so whats next? youre going to justify physically acting out because you have these "fantasies" you just MUST fulfill!? Porn is a sick perversion and ive seen it destroy my family. pretty much youd rather tell yourself its okay than practice some SELF CONTROL!.. you WONT die with out watching porn so i refuse to believe that it is necessary. ESPECIALLY if you have a wife or partner to share that with!.. when your feeling those urges go make love to them!.. dont make stupid excuse. and for all you women out there confused because everbody is telling you "its okay" its "normal".. THINK FOR YOURSELVES!.. that is the BIGGEST LOAD OF CRAP ive heard!.
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Planeteer1 year, 9 months ago
I think porn has something to do with unfulfilled dreams of a male or a female? Something they can't find in their spouse so they look elsewhere for fulfilment, or grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Anything new is exciting!
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Harbeas1 year, 9 months ago
There is nothing wrong with watching people having sex with one another. Some porn however is raw and not very good. However, if you don't like porn so be it, but stop trying to force your views on someone else. As long as he is not obsessing about it leave it be. It doesn't mean he loves you any less.
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tchef1 year, 9 months ago
I think that the bigger issue here is the fact the you can't change a person. If you can't except them as they are your relationship is doomed. That's why ultimatums don't work, the minute that you force change you will breed resentment.
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KYRed1 year, 9 months ago
What's wrong with mechanical sex? I see some interesting videos of women having sex with machines lol. Seriously, I know a couple who decided to watch porno videos to spice up their love life. It didn't work They felt dirty. Whatever.
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greenmac1 year, 9 months ago
Yes .....I like porn once in a while....good porn that is ...erotica. If I was addicted to violent movies....now that to me woukld be problem. Assault with a friendly weapon...is more my style...LOL
Why is it that we see sex as a disgusting act....it is a normal act....stimulating...healthy
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2sidestoeverything1 year, 9 months ago
I think the first thing this woman needs to do is ask herself what is it about porn they she finds disgusting. The word disgusting sounds more like a judgment about porn or the people in. It sounds like this couple needs to talk openly and frank about sex and the porn. She can't change him and he can not change her they need to come to a happy medium or step away from each other. If there is true love and respect here then they will be able to work this out.
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evelyna1 year, 9 months ago
I find it amusing that men will spend so much time dating and even marry someone-only to completely ignore the person and stay tuned into porn all of the time.
I think it is rude and ignorant to do this in someone's presence. I don't know what is worse-the over sexed or the impotent. Both will never think they have a problem.
My girlfriend's husband had a picture of a hot babe in a bikini on his computer wallpaper. I switched it to a hot looking construction guy. Of course hubby dear was not pleased.
If I am dating someone I will only agree to watch porn if they include porn with two men doing it. None will take me up on that so I don't have to watch it.
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jimdoze1 year, 9 months ago
Especially problematic when the motel does an age check on your... ah... sex partner, huh?
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Candy2091 year, 9 months ago
I love wathching erotica with my husband. We have been together for twenty years, and our sex life has never been better. I know that he has more hardcore stuff that he likes to watch on his own, but I would never tell him that he could not watch it. Erotica (soft core porn) can be tasteful and romantic. Sorta like foreplay. These days, partners don't tell one another what they like when it comes to sex. If they did, maybe there would be fewer breakups and divorces.
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flyrod1 year, 9 months ago
Seems this subject has come up here before. I still don't see this as a viable method of enhancing your relationship. If you have to rely on outside stimulus to enrich your personal relationship with your spouse there is something wrong. However, the fact that you are watching porn repeatedly tells me that there are other psychological issues and you are just using your relationships as an excuse.
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greenmac1 year, 9 months ago
Humans use several methods to achieve different highs. Some require alcohol ...drugs, others like to read erotica and watch porn. It is a personal choice. The mind is a strange thing ..... a playground... a prison. If porn provides a fantasy that provides pleasure with no harmful side effects...what is wrong with that.
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blksentra21 year, 9 months ago
I've never realized that violence is far more acceptable than sex in our society. Of course when you get old enough, it becomes the other way around.
How silly is that?
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CitizenJ1 year, 9 months ago
Sex is a vitally important human activity and sexual desire is a natural feeling given to us by God. I believe people who think consensual sex is bad are oppressed. I used to watch porn and masturbate frequently even though the Mrs. and I were having sex regularly. Then she hit her sexual peak a couple of years ago. Now, it's like living with a porn star and I rarely feel the need to "touch myself". Porn can fill the gap when one person is more sexual than the other. I think it kept us together even when I was happy but not FULLY satisfied.
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BronxBomber1 year, 9 months ago
How can you're wife find you with all that hair ? & how can people tell the difference between you two? Jest kiddin' curlyJ...
;o)
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cleare1 year, 9 months ago
i'm tired of all this "poor"nogrophy. i wanna see some "good"nogrophy. an old joke, but apt.
most american porn is designed for men, more women would watch if their interests and perspectives were better represented.
i just had an opportunity to spend some time in europe and their porn is better, more interesting to women...less coy...more atmospheric...and just as graphic as our XXX & XXXX...and it's available at no extra cost on cable TV. kinda startling to be channel surfing with mom and suddenly see graphic porn. european actors are better looking, more fetish inclined and can actually act. of course, europeans are a whole lot less repressed sexually than americans.
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jnd4ever20041 year, 9 months ago
I have seen couple of porn, theres too much talk than the actions...sometimes it bores us or they are looking or acting stupid that dont look so porn-y ..... I am good looking but not too sexy like those girls.. but i do know how to satisfy my man.. sometimes i don't like it when my man is watching porn or on the computer looking at other chicks or talking to them...
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jimdoze1 year, 9 months ago
The addictive behaviour, in this instance, sounds like it is reinforced by other deep-seated intrapersonal and interpersonal issues. If the guy is motivated to preserve his relationship, he should seek help. It could also be (but much less likely) that she is doing something that sends him "under cover". If she is fully confident that she is not a cause, then she should force the issue and, if no resolution in sight, move on.
I was married to someone who saw fit to begrudgingly bestow her graces on me maybe once a year... and I am no slob. (I have no problem dating very attractive women 25 to 30 years younger... not for money either... 'cause there ain't none left.)
Needless to say, porn became an outlet. The one negative I often wonder about is that maybe it allowed me to tolerate a situation that would have been best (even for the child, who is now in college) dissolved much much earlier.
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humemacdonald1 year, 9 months ago
Jmdoze- very good post.
I think the fact that porn allowed you to tolerate an unhappy marriage is a very good point to bring up. In this way, it can be no different than any other "cover" for deeper inter and intrapersonal issues. Thanks
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SAAB76991 year, 9 months ago
I see nothing wrong with porn as long as it is being
demonstated by one or more consenting adults(human,
only please).I wouldn't make a spectacle of myself
if I used it but I wouldn't hide in the closet either.
I think the affect of pornography on an individual
depends on that person's frame of mind. As long as your
head is in the real world,No problem by me.
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flyrod1 year, 9 months ago
I must be missing something.....All these people using porn to supplement their libido. Let me see if I have this right. Most of you are using porn to enhance a sexually inadequate relationship. Maybe, the problem isn't your partner but you. Use your imagination, be romantic, take your time and most of all be patient. Porn is not an answer whether you're addicted to it or not. It might even be part of your problem (Expectations that cannot be fulfilled leads to frustration.)We're not talking about an open society frame of mind but a problem between two people. I don't care how old you are or how long you've been in the relationship. Your partner will respond if you make them feel special and intimate. Now that's about as deep as I can get. Will someone please get me a beer and show me something naked?
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jimdoze1 year, 9 months ago
Fly, do you know the concept underlying a "heat sink" in electronics? It is something which absorbs heat from a component and dissapates it elsewhere. When one is in a relationship where one of the parties is a chronic "love sink", there is virtually nothing one can do. That is not to suggest that she was promiscuous. She wasn't. She just simply wasn't there sexually. Sometimes the "love sink" party to the relationship simply has insurmountable emotional problems.
Now here's a beer... getting someone nekkid is up to you.
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