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Posted By WikiMap 12 months ago in NewsIt is a matter of shame and distress that crimes against children are constantly on the rise. Child abuse has become so common today that it is hardly reported.
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WikiMap12 months ago
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Child abuse has become so common today all over the world. Article not deals with statistics but provides measures to prevent crimes against children. Prevention is better than cure. Most abuse can be prevented with proper guidance by the parents to their children.
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DarkWizard12 months ago
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I'm not saying that there isn't child abuse and I abhor those that are child abusers, but this article is way too general and the advice is fairly contrary to the socialization process most child experience. To me, some of the advice given would create more psychological problems as the percentages weren't available to see how many are affected by these abuses. "Prevention is better than cure." Is that like abstinence is better than birth control? And, the article doesn't state that it is talking about worldwide abuses. So, one could assume that it spoke of one nation's problems v. a globally distributed issue. This would totally change any statistics (if available) on where the majority of abuses actually occur compared to where abuses are actually reported. Many abuses are not public information because of the culture of the country in question. The article needs to be clearer on who, where, and what it is addressing.
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Ciera-Marie12 months ago
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Wiki you didn't answer DW'S comment.
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Regarding child abuse and the sensitivity surrounding it (there are parents who have been wrongly accussed and convicted, parents who have gotten away with it, parents who weren't punished until after the child dies), it would be VITAL to have references, trusted sources, experts from the AMA, Pediatric Doctors and Nurses, Chiropractors (they see it too) Dentists and Daycare Providers, as well as teachers and ESPECIALLY Psychologists.
An article or blog entry that doesn't have sources, stats, interviews from experts to back up what the article is saying, to list the signs, AND HOW to prevent it in the first place is nothing more than poor journalism and is opinion. Nothing more.-
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DarkWizard12 months ago
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Ciera-Marie,
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Thank you very much. You stated more clearly what I was trying to get across...that this "...is nothing more than poor journalism and is opinion. Nothing more."
I would add that it is lazy journalism as most articles I see have statistics or links to show where research has been done. I've seen comments from bloggers longer than your article and with more research done!
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jordan1112 months ago
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Here's a start; http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/childabuse.html
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CHAM12 months ago
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One of the most damaging things that can happen to a child is for their parents to end their marriage in divorce. When my Grandson graduated from the University he wrote a paper on the children of divorce. I helped him with the research and still have his Power Point summary on my Computer.
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About any category you can imagine reveals a damage to the child. As an example child abuse is most prevalent to the child when a divorced mother has the children and has a live in boy friend. The statistic quoted in his paper shows that those children are 73 times more likely to suffer abuse than a child who lives within a standard family ( mother and father together since marriage ). Yes there are exceptions, but nevertheless the numbers show the dark side of divorce.
We need to encourage families to resolve that raising their children in a loving home is the prime function of parents.-
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lvrofwolves12 months ago
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I don't agree with your comment CHAM, some kids are very happy their parents divorce, especially if one of the parents are abusive. And many parents actually become better parents after the split, the parents concentrate more on the children instead of their own marriage issues and some kids get much needed counseling afterwards. Divorce doesn't have to have such a dark side for children if the parents truly care for their kids, and if they don't care, staying together or splitting up won't make much difference.
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There should be 0 tolerance for abuse against children, and if convicted of a crime, I expect max punishment of the law.
IMO there needs to be much more education on parenting, I thought this one show called 'The baby borrowers' was excellent, made those teens really think about making a decision to have children. There's just too many people having children that really shouldn't be parents. -
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jordan1112 months ago
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One of the most damaging things that can happen to a child is for their parents to end their marriage in divorce.>>>>
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As compared to what? Surely you don't assume that not getting a divorce is better for children in all circumstances. That dirty little secret of spousal abuse get past your granson's statistics, did it? It simply isn't possible to make an objective determination on what's best for children with a sweeping comment that divorce isn't in the best interest of children. Each family comes with its own unique set of circumstances, and it certainly doesn't help their problems by dumping a broad guilt trip on a parent by saying "One of the most damaging thing that can happen to a child" etc etc.-
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lvrofwolves12 months ago
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Someone in my family would not get a divorce because she wanted to wait till her children grew up,it would be too hard for her alone! (well tough sh!t, think of your kids, not yourself) and she did wait. Now the kids think you should stay with a drunk abusive spouse regardless, besides the fact of being children of an alcoholic has it's own issues especially when the practicing alcoholic lives in the house.The kids are picking mates just like their Father. I just don't get what benefit it is for the kids or the spouse that waits like that. Maybe financial, but even that is like sacrificing for $ Yeah it's a struggle being a single parent raising children, but it's a well worth struggle and with as many agencies out there to help.....I am not an advocate for divorce and believe in counseling if there are problems, and trying to work it out, but there comes a point, and if there is ANY abuse in the house, people should be instructed to GET OUT NOW! I know too many who stay because they don't want to be alone, or for financial reasons etc....that's sacrificing your children. SHAME!
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GehlLady12 months ago
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I think both you and cham are right. Cham didn't address an abusive spouse, so as I read the comment I agreed. Too many children take responsibility for the breakup as theirs to carry, and very often the remaining parent left to them is unavailable to them due to their own emotional issues.
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When an abusive spouse is the cause of the divorce, you are 100% correct that to remove the kids from the abuse is the only thing to do. That doesn't mean the children won't suffer, but they may have a better chance to heal.
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Pecossam12 months ago
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Hello, CHAM!
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You hit the proverbial nail on the head with the statistics on step-parent child abuse. And in order to prevent this I would go so far as to have our society totally re-evaluate so-called "NO FAULT DIVORCE", for when CHILDREN are involved, SOMEONE IS AT FAULT, if divorce is required. I knew as a child since the age of four the damage caused when my parents divorced, and the negative impact it had on my older Sister and Brother. I add to that the fact of my first wife regretting her divorcing me so much she tried to get me back later, and she directly blamed the ease and alacrity with which the whole California procedure was accomplished. Arkansas law totally "blew my mind", in that ADULTARY CANNOT be considered when deciding who the better custodial parent would be. Sure, let us by all means leave MORALS out of the picture, for that calls for a dreaded JUDGEMENT, something which is anathema to our modern, progressive, and morally-relativistic society; whose mantra seems to be, "The heck with the children, it's about what makes ME happy!", along with the whole misguided concept of instant gratification, at the expense of one's children.
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tkyrchncs12 months ago
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Wow. Where to start.
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Most child abuse is done BY PARENTS.
Spanking, previously regarded as sacred duty, is now child abuse.
Teaching your child to trust no one is dastardly.
Children are not as fragile as most would have us believe. Nearly EVERYONE experiences some abuse as a child, and most of us grow up normal, without any counseling.
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jordan1112 months ago
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tkyrchncs12 months ago
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If you can trust no one, then you can LOVE no one. To teach a child never to trust anyone is in itself abuse. Suppose something happens to YOU, where will that child be? Terrified all the time, even of people who want nothing more than to help him/her?
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Ciera-Marie12 months ago
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If you teach a child to trust noone and they're being abused who in the name of God then will help them? They won't trust noone to help them get the help they need. God that is the worst advice to give anyone "Trust No one."
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Better would be use your gut and instincts to help you learn who to trust, who not too and who to avoid.
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shrshnl12 months ago
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My children are from a divorced family and have alot of children themselves that they would never ever think of hurting in any way shape or form, where did you get your facts, also my dayghter was a teen mom and a good one at that.
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Spratz12 months ago
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I don't know if child abuse has actually increased or if it's more out in the open. Years ago kids were getting abused and it was pretty acceptible behavior. I can remember many of my friends getting hit with belts and fly swatters by their parents and even coat hangers. We never thought that it was abuse,but it was. My own mother slapped us when we got out of line. I never considered her abusive. Although when raising my own children I didn't use physical punishment because I remember how I felt as a kid when I did get a good slap.
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The clergy was mentioned in another post. How many kids have gotten abused and never said a word to anyone because priests were held on such high regard by society ? Even with the hundreds that have come forward in recent years,how many victims have remained silent ?
Laws finally got put in place to help prevent child abuse and hopefully they are helping. But I think the most important thing that a parent can do is to communicate with their children and make sure that they feel secure enough to come to you if they have any reservations about being around any adult whether it be a teacher,neighbor,family member etc.. -
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upstatepiano12 months ago
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Spratz, I would have to concur complete. It's the amount of reporting that is increasing. To act like suddenly children are the victims when they have been all along. If you read any books by Alice Miller (brilliant German child psychologist) you will understand that many aspects of a child's (our) early years are abusive. The fact that American families consider it a failure of some sort to live with their parents, (grandparents, parents, and children) and or that if you stay in your home town you're somehow a loser. That is probably more the issue. Connected families that support, feed, monitor and participate in the group making healthy children, healthy families and probably healthier communities. It may be that the Native Americans who lived for 10000 years on these shores and we're barely making 250, may have been right all along. I would suggest paying attention to immigrant families as well. We mock them for multiple generations under one roof, but they are loving caring families who support one another. Abuse is the fault of society, not the perpetrator.
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CHAM12 months ago
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I think most of you missed my point. The statistic came from Government files on abuse of children. The data was run on a data mining format ( cross - tabs ) that compares cause and effect among other things. The program runs correlations of variables. So the data isn't mine or my Grandsons, it is straight out of the Government files. Whether or not you agree with it is of no difference. The data is what it is.
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Also you must have missed the statement that I made that there are exceptions. But the data at the time revealed that a child living with a divorced mother and her live in boyfriend is in much greater danger of suffering abuse than a child living in a traditional family.
I only mentioned one statistic. Here are a couple of others. The child of divorce is much less likely to gain the level of education of the Traditional family child, is also much more likely to become a juvenile delinquent, take drugs, and as you might expect, marry younger, more likely to get a divorce, and will earn much less lifetime than a child who does not go thru a divorced home.
These statistics came from government figures. If you would like to check them yourselves go to the nearest college and get them to show you how to access the Government reports and use the cross-tabs ( they might have gotten better statistical software by now, our research was several years ago).
So if you know an individual, or have a member of the family, that has had great success coming from a divorced home, that's great, but it is not the norm. -
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makato10310012 months ago
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Why bother in reporting child abuse or animal abuse, read what happened in Tn. When you do try to report "what you think is child abuse and neglect" the state says it not. So why even bother reporting it. My friend call the Tn. Child services to report that a house she had visited the parents were smokeing illegal drugs. The state replied as long as the child was taken care of by means of clothing and food then he was not in danger. So therefore it is legal in Tn to smoke a joint in front of a 4 yr old. She also seen them shoot a domestic dog, she call the local sheriff's department, and they said it was legal as long as the dog was on their property. So my advice to anyone that lives in tenn, if you see anything wrong don't waste your breath reporting it.
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CHAM12 months ago
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Everyone take a deep breath and listen carefully. What I reported was data that exists. If you don't believe the data and don't want to research for yourself, so be it.
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What I reported was Government data concerning the effect of divorce on a child.
And if I recall correctly I suggested that married people ought to think about their children before they create the atmosphere that foments divorce and harms children. The children believe in their parents. That is all they have. What I suggested is that married people should provide a loving home for the children.
What I have reported is data collected for years on the children who have gone through divorce and the outcome.-
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GehlLady12 months ago
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I've seen some of the data, I agree with you. That's also why I mentioned the negligence, single parent homes too often have children home alone due to work, not enough time or energy after work for the support and help a child needs to succeed. Dating can take more awareness and attention away from the kids, and as the statistics show, the wrong choices in a new boyfriend (or less often, girlfriend) can be tragic.
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makato10310012 months ago
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GehlLady, I am a single parent and after work, I spend most of my time with my daughter along with myself going to school. My daughter is an "A" honor roll student and is in the 3rd grade she has already advanced 1 grade. When I was divorced, I thought it was the norm to devote my time in raising this child to succeed. I brought her in this world and it is only my responsibility to ensure she becomes an asset to the outside world. I do not date or go to clubs, as I feel it is not right to leave her with a sitter while I am out having a good time. I only went back to school to show her that you are never to old to get a good education. I have 3 degree and working on my MA. As for me having to leave the country, there is not much I can do about that. Soon I will never have to leave her again, as this job is coming to an end. (169 days) So therefore not all single parent are this way.
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GehlLady12 months ago
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That's wonderful, you sound like an excellent mother and role model! I never meant to imply all single parent homes are as I described. I was only addressing the topic at hand. I know there are many people like you, but unfortunately, there are those that aren't as together as you.
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