Why Mothers Are Unhappy (Hint: It Has Nothing to Do with Work) »
Posted By aStorygirl 5 months, 1 week ago in FamilyA recent study ominously entitled “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness” shows increasing numbers of women in the workplace correlates with decreasing happiness reported by women. But before the media has us all barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen all over again, by blaming any unhappiness on the fact that women work, I’d like to make an assertion of my own: Mothers’ unhappiness has little to do with whether or not we work, and everything to do with where we are on the food chain of parental responsibility.
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moxxxxxxxxxx5 months, 1 week ago
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The femnist movement gave women the freedom to get marry, work outside the home, work inside the home, raise children, manage domestic responsibilities and on an on. Sure women can now play and work like men, but men have no interest in working and playing like women. And what becomes of the 50 something woman who spent her life working inside and outside the home and now has a husband who discovers the magic youth pill Viagra. He's off huntng for 20 something women and the wife is left with a No fault divorce that will take advantage of all her past work to determine her earning potential, forget alimony. She will have to continue work like a man without equal pay. The feminist movement was great for single women who never married and lesbians who never wanted a man in their life. But it did nothing for women who married.
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moxxxxxxxxxx5 months, 1 week ago
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Psycho Hose,
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This has nothing to do with me and eveything to do with the millions of married women who spent their lives doing it ALL! Two generations later young women are finally figuring it out. 50% of all marriages end in dvorce, women who get married and have children delay career goals, make less than men for equal work, and cannot expect any type of old age compensation if they divorce. Go visit your local retirement center and you will find divorced, old women living on the poverty line because they spent their lives raising children and working to supplement their husband's incomes but not enough to support themselves in old age. Meanwhile the old man has other children and old women to support. Women who want to stay home and raise children should be taken care of throughout their lives. The stay at home mom is the most important job in America yet it is the least respected and most underpaid. Women who stay home and raise children should never work outside the home and make sure the father of their children supports them for life! Or if we choose to ignore men's responsibility for their wives and children ( as we do in this country) the government should make sure these women have a quality of life equal to career working women. The feminist movement has nothing to say about women who dedicate their lives to raising children and being a mother and wife.-
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mmrhe5 months, 1 week ago
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Actually, the Women's Movement had EVERYTHING to do with married mothers!
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Remember the trapped housewife stuck in a miserable, abusive relationship because she had no other economic choice?
What we have may not be perfect but you are looking back with rose colored glasses moxxx -
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Ciera-Marie5 months, 1 week ago
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Do you have the right as a MARRIED woman to own property? Your own busines? Own a car? Have a checking account or savings account? How about your credit card? Right to choose the birth control method of YOUR choice? Right to get promoted at work for a job well done and not on the basis of your sex (thanks also goes to the Wilmar MN five. BTW they fought for this right in the late '80's.)? Right to work in a work place without sexual harassment? Answer yes to one or more of these questions you owe the Feminist movement a big thank you.
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sprzats5 months, 1 week ago
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The feminists movements got women to be recognized as equal to men. The black man got the right to vote long before women did. How many women marched and got put in jail to get us that right ? Women before us had to fight hard to get us our rights we have today.
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In the early 1900's all a husband needed was two doctor's signatures to have his wife committed to an asylum. Or a son....... in the case of Mary Lincoln.
A woman was pretty much owned by her husband and if she chose to leave she had to leave EVERYTHING. She was entitled to nothing. Anything she owned became her husband's once she married.
I was alone raising three children in the 80's. Thank God it was the 1980's and not the 1880's. Because of these movements I was able to earn wages that were equal to my male co-workers. I was able to establish credit in my own name. Just five years before I wouldn't have been able to work 3rd. shift because the company did not allow women to work past midnight.
If it weren't for the women's movements I probably would have been forced to stay in an unhealthy marriage and stay a slave to my husband. If a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom it's her choice. But don't think that these movements did nothing to help you. They gave you a way to have a choice. Once I married again I worked for the most part because I CHOSE to work. When things got a little to hectic I would take a year off or work just part time for awhile. If you choose to stay at home enjoy it, but don't be so bitter about what is your choice. As far as the government taking care of you when you get older...well you get out what you put in.
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zabella145 months, 1 week ago
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OKAY...THAT is why I wont take my son to soccer and waste my time get bitten by mosquitoes to watch him score..I SAY my son can join any sports after he is 16 and drive himself to his nonsense..I relax! My son has gym at school that is good enough.
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Icantwait5 months, 1 week ago
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My Fellow Americans: It is sad to read about the trauma and frustration associated with these comments. I've know men that loved their wives but got left alone and homeless. Probably women began feeling more free during WWII when they were working in the factories while their husbands, boyfriends and lovers were fighting the was. However, when women began taking jobs to increase or supplement the family income big business began to notice this trend. Goods and services became doubly more expensive thus forcing other families to have both parents working. This new trend began placing more tensions on marriages. Now, relationships began forming at their workplaces, people began complaining about their marriages to their working associates, sympathy bonds began to form, suddenly infidelity became a thing of the new generation.
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Along came abortion to solve all the problems. A person could now have all the promiscuous sex they desired. The men did no longer have to worry about their secret love relationship as long as their new romantic mate could and would get an abortion. Women took advantage of this new protection without protection. Yes, at first it was done in secret until laws were passed to make it a fact of life.
What were the results of this activity? Basically, millions of babies were slaughtered, future scientist, doctors, actors, astronauts, pilots, construction workers, lawyers, etc., left on the clinic floors. Then divorce began to flood the country. Lawyers living off the family chaos created by infidelity, legal sanctions, and an accepted way of life. The courts favoring the Women, Men losing their jobs, their houses, their cars, having to pay child support, slowly losing the ability to see their children on a regular basis let alone being able to spend quality time with them, becoming a stranger to their own children, having to support two households without an income, becoming criminals on the run. Hunted down like serial killers while the real criminals were put on hold. The Real American -
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Icantwait5 months, 1 week ago
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My Fellow Americans: Continued from above.
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Woman also struggled though it appeared they were doing better after the divorce than before. Two incomes, their job plus their child support, and a boyfriend to boot with an income.
It was not all love and roses, their boyfriends began sucking them dry, what was once thought as a new romance was only a rebound situation, their divorced partners unable to provide the child support they were promised, trying to juggle between being both parents to their children, enforcing the rules but nurturing their offspring at the same time. Getting another job to supplement the loss of household income that was once a luxury. Having chores to complete that was once taken care of by their life partner, changing oil, mowing lawn, emptying trash, fixing a cabinet, running to the market etc., perhaps small things but an added burden none the less.
Now, the tears can fall, what might have been a wonderful retirement, sharing the past difficulties of working, raising the children, and spending hours together relaxing is now just a haunting memory. Living alone, watching your pennies, hoping to get a visit from your children once in awhile, watching television, and stuffing your stomach is all you have left.
Do you remember your parents final years together as world travelers. Just living through a few difficult times in your relationship could have made a life for you just like your parents. The Real American -
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moxxxxxxxxxx5 months, 1 week ago
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Thank you Icantwait.
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You explained the realities of the feminist movement. Change has both bad and good consequences. Unfortunately the majority of people today are only living for today and do not take the time to try and understand the causes of all our current social problems. Half of all marriages end in divorce because we have made it easy to leave instead of putting effort into trying to work things out. More than half of all children today are born to single mom's , and not by accident, it is a deliberate choice. Even when there is a father to support the child. Finanacially stable adults cannot adopt children because abortion has reduced the number of children needing families. So to take care of this problem we created invtro fertilization now you can create your child in a lab, you can even select the eye color. Or perhaps you want to have a litter and can be implanted with 8 embryos. We are not concerned about the safety of the children it's the women's RIGHT to do what she wants with her body. Forget about aging gracefully we now have magic pills that allows men in their 60's, and 70's to reproduce and old women to become pregnant. No one thinks about the social costs, who is going to support and raise these kids. If you are an old man on social security your child automatically receives benefits too. The feminist changed the direction of society and its sad to see most people can't follow the direction. -
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