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Posted By gamahuche 4 months ago in FamilyShelly writes poignantly about the state of her marriage. Karen blogs shamelessly about her secret life as a serial mistress. Amy reveals all about her adulterous affairs ...Suddenly there are any number of websites devoted to women's real-life confessions. But who uses them, and why?
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gamahuche4 months ago
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This story is focussed on English women and their very public blogs regarding illicit liaisons. Nothing I know about directly, nor do I have any idea whether it is comparable to whatever is happening in the US.Its certainly spicy stuff, but does it represent freedom or addiction or?? Is it immoral or amoral? Acceptable or unacceptable - and who gets to decide?
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AnteUp4 months ago
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1.)I have to admit a secret smile spread across my face reading about the wife knowing where his wallet, belt and other missing items were. Not telling him because she enjoyed seeing him go
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crazy looking for them.........heh-heh-heh!
2.) My guess is it is confessional, unless they are testing the waters for a career in creative writing.
3.) It's all your fault, gama, if everybody leaves Prop
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Radiofreeeuropa4 months ago
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Curious. I don't have an opinion really about this, pro or con, moral or im...a...moral. None of the above. But it is worthy of an eyebrow raise. I fall into the view that whatever people decide to do with their sex lives is up to them, if it includes writing about it...ok. It is always sort of a bargain between interested parties, let the buyer beware. I will say British women I've met in recent years have a pretty open attitude about sex, which is a good thing.
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gamahuche4 months ago
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Its not like the traditional British cliche..
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That the only way a gentlewoman could deal with sex was to keep her eyes tight shut and think of England!
I'm very happy to be able to affirm that that disappeared in the 60's .
We were also blessed with some bold - and beautiful - US visitors of the female persuasion too.
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Spadecaller4 months ago
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thanks g... it is happening all over the world. Coincidentally, I have a close friend who is presently experiencing the aftermath of this sort of thing.
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To cheat on a husband ( or wife) and then to write candidly online is truly pathetic behavior -- One of the most harmful acts of disrespect a person can do to another.
I picked up a friend with my wife from the hospital this past Friday. His wife had left him after several years of marriage; no note, not even a fight. She simply stated that she had lost interest in the marriage a "while back." When he asked if they could do some counseling, she admitted that she was already seeing someone else and it was too late for that.
(To protect his anonymity I will call him "Rick".) While Rick is a quiet guy and a gentle sort, there is by no means a "reason" for anyone to get treated that way. Rick was recuperating from a broken hip - and was on temporary disability. However, the likelihood of returning to his job is in question. Knowing Rick, as I do, his self-esteem is wrapped up in his work and he has not been having an easy time of it.
Apparently, this added news was too much for him. He swallowed a lethal dosage of narcotics ... and fortunately, his Aunt who lives next door found him in time. I'm not condoning or even condemning his behavior; he reacted to life poorly. But, for God sakes; if we are going to get hit once in a while in this world, it should not be from someone we swore we would honor and care for.
I've been married to my best friend for many years; few of our original friends that were married a few decades ago are still together. The ability to enjoy loving and lasting relationships is not something one discovers by taking the right pill with the right partner. It's a hell of a lot easier to have great sex with someone you love and someone who is free to be themselves. Boring sex is a symptom of boring people.
My point is that it takes a very sick and hateful person to disregard the feelings of someone that they had been or are involved intimately. Only someone with deeply rooted hatred could do that kind of thing. Cheating and blabbing about it online requires some real pathological motives and some real lost souls to be stimulated by it.
I was certainly grateful to feel the liberating effects of the sexual revolution; but personal emancipation does not give license to destroy families and to recklessly cause severe emotional damage to an unsuspecting partner.
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chevydog4 months ago
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So many mixed emotions reading something like this.
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When I was growing up, I sort of could classify the parents of my friends into two groups: (1) these guys belong together; and (2) just how did these guys end up married? I suspect that the same divide is obviously and immediately made by the public at large to almost everyone.
Anyone who's been married for any length of time has the potential to do severe mental damage to his/her partner. Sometimes it's intentional, and sometimes inadverdant just by existing. After all, they've got the keys to the other's soul. To me, it's a measure of maturity to avoid doing it; with great power comes great responsibility.
I guess I can see writing about infidelity a a method of catharsis--of course this presupposes the situation is real and not just a "representitive type" conjured up from portions of multiple relationships. It may give some kind of emotional release. Seems to me that it would be equally good from a personal standpoint to invest that much energy in trying to repair a relationship.
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Spadecaller4 months ago
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I think it is great writing about poor conduct -- especially behavior that hurts others. However, there is an integral difference in bringing about a cathartic event for the benefit of personal growth when it is done respectfully without injuring or sacrificing another person's welfare in the process.
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